Bless Your Holiday Stress: It Means You’re Still Alive!

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Here it comes again –the season of giving AND receiving. You know how you’ll be “receiving” some family and friend obligations you never receive except during the two months ahead? Once you CHOOSE to receive, you now get to choose your attitude and behavior. In my book, Bless Your Stress: It Means You’re Still Alive! I define “bless”: to redirect the force of your energy so that you affirm your existence and embrace the whole of your life. This establishes the foundations of your own happiness. Yeah…but NOW, in THIS economy? And with THAT family coming over? Well here are four tips to improve your ability to focus on what matters:

1. Check your mental baggage.

We all have memories from past holidays. A lot of us haul around a hefty load of stress connected to the holidays of the past. According to Mental Health America, “memories” account for close to 50% of all the sources of holiday stress. The problem is we don’t realize it. Remember after that one run-in with your mother-in-law, you vowed to never cook a green bean casserole dish again for the family dinner, yet here you are en route to another one…with yet another covered dish and a sour mood. And some of our New Year’s Eve memories aren’t as magical and joyous as the ‘40s movies portray. Imagine having a mandatory Stress Security Check Points Mental Detector (I don’t mean “metal”). Imagine being scanned with an Attitude Wand (like the ones they use in airports), only these wands would check for what’s weighing down your mind.

2. Tap into your Personal Control Panel.

While we pride ourselves on being in control, it’s critical that we understand what we can and can’t control. It’s a short list of things we can control. It includes what you think, what you say, what you feel and do, the food you put into your mouth, and what you do to your body. That’s where we need to focus our energy. Revise your outlook and revamp your reactions so you can rebound from life’s annoyances.  Here are some things we can’t control during the holiday season:

  • You can’t invite your uncle without your aunt (if they are still married).
  • You can’t invite the sister-in-law without THAT banana pudding.
  • The relatives you visit have no guest room, and you have to sleep on the pullout bed with the saggy mattress in the direct path of the only bathroom.
  • The ungrateful reactions people have to the gift you oh-so-carefully picked out!

Beyond that, tap into your “Personal Control Panel” which controls what happens in your mind. Remember to push “Play” but skip the “Fast Forward” because, as Gandhi famously said, “There is more to life than increasing its speed.” Also, “Fast Forward” can lead to self-fulfilling prophecy scenarios in your head, “Oh I know what’s going to happen: I’ll buy too much food; I’ll buy too little food; the store will run out of food.” Make full use of the “Pause Button,” meaning to take a deep breath and take stock before letting a stress trigger make you go nuts.

3. Practice the fine art of patience.

Another key element of blessing your stress is to practice “wait lifting,” or the ability to wait and have patience in today’s 24/7, frenetic “now” culture. Patience is how you handle the wait of the world. By starting with the light waits–the computer doesn’t boot up fast enough or the traffic light takes too long to change–you can work up to medium and heavy waits.

We work in businesses where we cultivate long-term clients. Those with the most patience are the most successful in the business you own or work in. Think of your family as your oldest long-term clients! Practice lightening the wait. You transform your perspective and get more out of life when you retrain your brain.

Other experts reinforce these suggestions. As the American Institute of Stress website notes, “Stress is not always necessarily harmful…Increased stress results in increased productivity—up to a point. However, this level differs for each of us. It’s very much like the stress on a violin string. Not enough produces a dull, raspy sound. Too much tension makes a shrill, annoying noise or snaps the string. However, just the right degree can create a magnificent tone. Similarly, we all need to find the proper level of stress that allows us to perform optimally and make melodious music as we go through life.” Love that; it’s why I wrote the book Necessary Roughness. Athletes know this perfect balance as adrenaline.

4. Make full use of your “Internal Whistle.”

This means what it means in football. To stop the action, the whistle blows. We need to take a deep breath and take stock before letting a stress trigger or a whiney nephew make you go nuts and say something you’ll regret.

And before you scream at your aunt for using her very best crystal, when she knows at least six children under the age of 3 will be running by her table for two hours before the dinner, blow your internal whistle and take a deep breath.

At the end of the day, and holiday, it comes down to cultivating the rare quality of perspective. Bring a “light take” on stress, so at least the stress doesn’t last long. During the holidays, besides decking the halls, be sure to play the deck you’re dealt and find your trump card. It may be that you are still alive to celebrate. Remember: there are at least 10 ways your holiday table with those people is better than a hospital bed. Trust me, I know. Been there, done that, got the t-shirt. So have a merry month ahead, and get into the New Year’s spirit.

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